Glimmers: A Guide to Self-Trust

Series: Finding the Glimmers
Remembering What Makes You Feel Alive Part 4

There is a you
who never had to second-guess your joys.
Who didn’t hide from what felt good.
Who didn’t need proof that something was safe
before trusting it.

That version of you still lives within your unconscious mind.
And glimmers are how she, he, or they leave a trail back to this softness.

Glimmers Are a Compass

At first, glimmers might feel like luxuries.
Moments of escape in a hard life.
But what if they’re not escapes…
what if they are directions?

When something lights up in your chest,
when your breath slows down,
when you catch yourself smiling for no reason
That's your mind is saying:

“More of this, please.”

Your mind is asking to stop centering pain
Stop zooming into painful possibilities
Stop focusing on where it hurts.

Glimmers remind you that joy and betrayal aren't married.
That ease, warmth and gentleness can exist .

You were always allowed to feel good.
You were just taught it was dangerous, indulgent, or fleeting.

Rebuilding Self-Trust Through Glimmers

When your personality has be shaped by chronic stress, betrayal, abandonment, or emotional neglect…
your body may have learned to mistrust good things.
You might be getting ready for the moment the good gets taken away.

But here’s the reframe:
You can rebuild self-trust by trusting what feels quietly good.

Start with the small things:

• That first sip of tea in silence.

• The thought to take a walk instead of doomscrolling.

• The feeling of peace after saying no, even if it’s awkward.
  

Track those glimmers.
Follow their lead.
Your unconscious mind is wise.
It remembers what’s true, even when your conscious mind forgets.

Reflective Exercise:
Follow What Feels Good

Choose one or more of the prompts below to journal with:

• “If I lived a glimmer-forward life, what would change?”

• “What part of me is asking to be choose myself more often?”

• “What makes me feel alive that I’ve been ignoring?”

• “What would it feel like to trust joy, not just fear?”
  

Then, write a short list of small doable, daily actions that bring you closer to what feels real and right.

For example:

• Play the music I used to love.

• Light a candle before bed.

• Speak gently to myself in the mirror.

• Send a voice note instead of overthinking a text.

• Say yes only when I mean it.
  

Let these be micro-acts of devotion to the life that wants to emerge through you.

The Soft Truth

You are not here just to cope.
You are not here just to survive.

You are here to feel, to remember, to enjoy, to be.

Even if it’s only for a moment.
Even if it’s quiet.
Even if it’s messy.

That moment counts.

You count.

Thank You for Reading

Thank you for journeying through these words.
Whether you read one part or all four, I’m honored you let these reflections sit beside you.
In a world that often tells us to rush through our feelings,
it’s no small thing to slow down…
to notice joy…
to remember who you are beneath survival.

If these posts stirred something in you
a spark, a memory, a sense of “I want to keep going”
you might find my Self-Trust Journal supportive.

With care,
Amy-Alyce🤍
Gentle Unlearning

Read the other parts here:

Want to learn what a glimmer is? Part 1
Want to hear about my favourite glimmer? Part 2
Build your daily glimmer practice with this reflection Part 3